Growing up, every adult made it seem that quitters were the worst kinds of people. I distinctly remember when I wanted to give up on the violin and my mom looked me dead in the eyes and asked with disdain, “Do you want to be a quitter?”
Yeah! I totally did! And I did quit the violin and I moved along to the cello. And, surprisingly, I became great at the cello. I went on to play for many years and even performed at Boston Symphony Hall. Quitting turned out to be awesome for me when I was younger, but I never associated that success with quitting.
Unfortunately, for me and many of you out there, that negative association with quitting has never quite left. There is a stigma around quitting. You know you look differently at your friend that quits her job than the one that toughs it out at the office she hates. It’s because we all hate quitters.
But I’m here to tell you that being a quitter is okay! I promise.
I enrolled in an online writing class a few months ago. I wanted to be able to be held accountable to write creatively. I started the class and after a lot of technological gaffes, I started writing. Then, I started to feel overwhelmed because that same feeling that got me to enroll in the class also pushed me to start blogging again and pushed me to start freelancing. Suddenly, I felt overwhelmed by all the due dates. And worse, I felt like I wasn’t getting anything beneficial from the class.
So, I quit.
At the end of the day, we’re all busy people. Why add more tasks onto our to-do list that we aren’t required to do?
Here are some things to ask yourself when deciding whether or not you want to stick with something:
- Does it make you happy?
- Does it make you money?
- Is it necessary to keep your household afloat?
If you said no to all of those, why are you still doing it? Honestly – there are so many people I know that are doing things that they should have quit a long time ago.
And, naturally, when you quit something, you will be filled with guilt that your parents and society at large instilled in you. Why couldn’t I have just finished it? Because it wasn’t worth it. Remind yourself that there was a reason you didn’t finish it. And, on the bright side, look at the newly found time you have to do something else – something that will make you happy and will be worthwhile enough to finish.
Go ahead and quit! And don’t feel bad about it at all. Why should you have to keep doing something just because you don’t want to be labelled a quitter? Be a quitter and be proud!